To All New Members

[*starryhound]

youve just arrived at the site, its new its a wee bit daunting, but so is everything in life till weve tried it once
theres only 1 stupid question, thats the 1 left unasked, if we dont ask we dont learn,were all the asame all a wee bit nervous people will think us dumb and laugh , due to the questions we ask, but if some-one laughs at ou for asking a question, then they are the wrong person to help you with anything ????
the staff on the site will help in any way they can all youve to do is ask
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were here to help if needed

[CONFUSED]

hi im new here im empathic just wondering is there any point in being empathic ?

[*starryhound]

i believe so yes, i believe empathy is there to help others about you, were ever possible,and when you concider the alternative. The world we live in breeds people to be ( whats in it for me !) . Its a very un-centered thourght

[CONFUSED]

I DOnt men to be self centered but when im just going about my daily life and i pass some one i just feel the sorrow or there pain, thats what i mean in whAts the point. i want to be able to do some thing positive not just feel sorrow, also if i meet some one i can instAntly feel if the person is a good or bad person. IF THIS IS A GIFT HOW AM I supposed to use it positively.aNY ADVICE welcome. iv just stArted A holistic therapy course, and i dont even know why, but it just felt right.

[*starryhound]

if you bring this subject up in chat, youll find the members will offer, advice how they dealt with it, and what methods tey used to learn to control it, rather than it you, as for passing some-one in the street many people believe the action of sensing sum1 elses problems ina small way lessens it through the action of sharing, also maybe all thats needed wen u feel this is a hya good morning hows u, often the simpliest kind word is all thats needed to make sum 1 smile ?????, thou u cant walk down the street doing this with every 1 lol

[Kingfisher]

We do have an empathy circle in our chatrooms also if you look further down the boards you will see the empathy board where many have shared their experiences of empathy.

Empathy can be a pian or a blessing the trick is to learn to control it rather than it controlling you. First thing is learn g&p grounding and protection this turns the volume down and allows those emotions to ground. Emotions are energy like electricity is energy. The analogy i like to use is that the empath is the ligtning rod you know those rods stuck on top of buildings to attract lightning strike away from unprotected places, attracting all that energy. Now if you are not grounded then this energy is stored in you buidling up as time goes by. You may have noticed that electrical appliances tend to short out or flicker when you are near.

Now how can empathy be a blessing, you have learned to control this, the excess energy is flowing down through your roots to mother earth, but you can draw some of that energy for yourself feel the emotions of the other that needs your help. Often empaths are healers as they can see what is needed, sometimes just listening to the person knowing that you just know what is wrong is also a way to help.

Empathy to my thoughts is a great gift for helping others I have been an empath my whole life up to now, and it was a pain then I found Mystic familiar it was here I found how to control it so now i can use it to help others and yes help myself too lol cos i firmly believe by helping others we help ourselves too.

[*starryhound]

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